Many couples wonder why they haven’t become pregnant even though they have been ‘trying’ for some time.

That word ‘trying’ is worth exploring. When you ’try’ something, there is the possibility that it will not work out.

‘Trying’ also suggests work. It is effortful and maybe even difficult.

Even the statement ‘I will really try’ conveys the idea that this is not easy but I will do my best to fit it in or achieve it.

Rather than a natural evolution, it seems as if you are going out of your way so that it can take place.

And when you are in this frame of mind (which often happens when couples have been ‘trying’ for a while or in the early stages of breastfeeding), the pressure increases, anxiety moves up a notch and the fear that you may not succeed escalates.

It can be useful then to let go of the word ‘trying’ and replace it with ‘allowing’.

In allowing, there is space for fun, excitement, relaxation and even magic. This is the kind of energy that will attract to you what you want.

When you were learning to walk. You didn’t ‘try’. You delighted in the process of movement. You allowed yourself to explore, develop your muscles and practice taking baby steps.

Even when you fell you were getting closer to your goal. There was absolutely no sense of failure.   

How does ‘trying’ make you feel? How might that effect your relationship?

How can you liberate yourself from ‘trying’ and open up to more fun, pleasure and delight in your fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and life?

 In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com