Archive for Inspired Relationship
Are You A Good Mother?
Posted by: | CommentsYou can rate yourself on a scale of 1-10:
1 = I dont think I am a good mom
10= I am an awesome mom
Where on the scale are you? What was the first number that comes into your head? What are the images that flashed upon the screen of your mind?
Does your program (your belief system) bring to your attention first your wonderful qualities …. the evidence of how great you are as a parent?
Or does it zoom into your ‘weaknesses’ or places around which you feel vulnerable?
When you read the heading of the post, what was your gut reaction?
Your perception of yourself as a mother and will most certainly have an impact on your relationship with your baby, your confidence in your breastfeeding and your parenting experience.
Poor self worth in your mothering has a knock-on effect too on your relationship.
If you don’t believe you are a good enough mom, your subconscious mind will find you proof of just that.
Is that what you really want? Might it be time to change some of those beliefs?
Where would you like to begin?
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
Research Confirms: Listening to Internal Cues is Healthier…
Posted by: | CommentsA recent study by Wansink et al (2007, Obesity 15:2920-2924) looked at why the French are thin even though they eat pastas, breads, wine etc.
They hypothesized that people who use internal cues (feeling full) rather than external cues (empty plate) would weigh less.
They compared a group of Parisians and a group of Chicagoans and confirmed that those with normal weight were more likely to listen to internal cues (feeling full).
They also observed that that the French were more likely to listen to internal cues.
If we translate these finding into the area of inspired fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding etc., it confirms what many women have already discovered.
By listening to your own wisdom (internal cues) rather than the ’shoulds’ or ‘have to’ of society (external cues), you make decisions that are best for you.
Your answers to success in pregnancy and birth…to experience the relationship you really desire and be the mother you really want to be…are within you.
Naturally, we need support, advice and expertise from time to time. Your wisdom within will guide you to the information, course or coaches that will help you to thrive.
Perhaps you are out of practice and haven’t been hearing your guidance. It is there none the less.
How can you deliberately listen to the guidance of your amazing body today… and begin to relax into success in pregnancy, fertility, breastfeeding and more?
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
Taking Responsiblity Unnecessarily
Posted by: | CommentsOn my walk this morning, I was greeted by a German Shepherd careering downhill towards me.
A quick glance noted soft eyes and a wagging tail. This beautiful beast changed direction and followed me back uphill.
I surmised that she was lost and took it upon myself to see if I could locate an owner.
After an hour of delightful meanderings along roads and byroads, I came to the conclusion that it was time for me to return home. I just hoped that we would meet somebody who knew my canine companion.
Soon after, a woman stopped in a car to inform me that ‘Pupi ’has a reputation for following strangers and is used to finding her own way home.
There are two lessons in this story:
(1) Often we assume others need our help and they absolutely do not!
(2) If we insist on taking responsibility, be sure to enjoy the scenery. In this way, when we discover that we are surplus to requirements we can still feel good about the journey.
When experiencing challenges in fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and relationship it can be very useful to ask: ‘What do I feel so responsible for?’, ‘Am I really responsible for this?’ and ’Can I let it go?’.
You can redirect this energy into creating time and space for you… and setting yourself up for success in fertility, pregnancy, relationship, birth and breastfeeding.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com
