Pregnancy brings many changes …some obvious and some more subtle.

Boundaries are blurred as your body opens up to this pregnancy and this new soul who will be, for some time, part of your physical being.

In pregnancy and while breastfeeding, your natural protection from the outside world is less clear so that you can embrace fully the role of mother and the intimacy it involves.

You may find yourself being very sensitive to the environment, to others, their moods, words etc.

Comments that previously would have gone right over your head, may be felt deeply now.

Your partner can really support you at this time by being that additional protection for you and baby and by filtering out people or information that may cause disturbance so that you can enjoy peace and tranquillity at this time.

Let your partner know how he (or she) can help you. Be clear. He needs your guidance. Give him positive feedback when you do perceive this protection.

This will be nourishing for your relationship and will also help him to ease into his role as father.  

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

You can rate yourself on  a scale of 1-10:

 1 = I dont think I am a good mom

10= I am an awesome mom

 So where on the scale are you? What was the first number that comes into your head? What are the images that flashed upon the screen of your mind?

Does your programme (your belief system) bring to your attention first your wonderful qualities …. the evidence of how great you are as a parent?

Or does it zoom into your ‘weaknesses’ or places around which you feel vulnerable?

When you read the heading of the post, what was your gut reaction?

Your perception of yourself as a mother and will most certainly have an impact on your relationship with your baby, your confidence in your breastfeeding and your parenting experience.

Poor self worth in your mothering has a knock-on effect too on your relationship.

If you don’t believe you are a good enough mom, your subconscious mind will find you proof of just that.

Is that what you really want? Might it me time to change some of those beliefs?

Where would you like to begin?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

A recent study by Wansink et al (2007, Obesity 15:2920-2924) looked at why the French are thin even though they eat pastas, breads, wine etc.

They hypothesised that people who use internal cues (feeling full) rather than external cues (empty plate) would weigh less.

They compared a group of Parisians and a group of Chicagoans and confirmed that those with normal weight were more likely to listen to internal cues (feeling full).

They also observed that that the French were more likely to listen to internal cues.

If we translate these finding into the area of inspired fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding etc., it confirms what many women have already discovered.

By listening to your own wisdom (internal cues) rather than the ’shoulds’ or ‘have to’ of society (external cues), you make decisions that are best for you.

Your answers to success in pregnancy and birth…to experience the relationship you really desire and be the mother you really want to be…are within you.

Naturally, we need support, advice and expertise from time to time. But your wisdom within will guide you to the information, course or coaches that will help you to thrive. 

Perhaps you are out of practice and haven’t been hearing your guidance. It is there none the less.

How can you deliberately listen to the guidance of your amazing body today… and begin to relax into success in pregnancy, fertility, breastfeeding and more?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

On my walk this morning, I was greeted by a German Shepherd careering downhill towards me.

A quick glance noted soft eyes and a wagging tail. This beautiful beast changed direction and followed me back uphill.

I surmised that she was lost and took it upon myself to see if I could locate an owner.

After an hour of delightful meanderings along roads and byroads, I came to the conclusion that it was time for me to return home. I just hoped that we would meet somebody who knew my canine companion.

Soon after, a woman stopped in a car to inform me that ‘Pupi ’has a reputation for following strangers and is well used to finding her own way home.

There are two lessons in this story:

(1) Often we assume others need our help and they absolutely do not!

(2) If we insist on taking responsibility, be sure to enjoy the scenery. In this way, when we discover that we are surplus to requirements we can still feel good about the journey.

When experiencing challenges in fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and relationship it can be very useful to ask: ‘What do I feel so responsible for?’, ‘Am I really responsible for this?’ and ’Can I let it go?’.

You can redirect this energy into creating time and space for you… and setting yourself up for success in fertility, pregnancy, relationship, birth and breastfeeding.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Many couples wonder why they haven’t become pregnant even though they have been ‘trying’ for some time.

That word ‘trying’ is worth exploring. When you ’try’ something, there is the possibility that it will not work out.

‘Trying’ also suggests work. It is effortful and maybe even difficult.

Even the statement ‘I will really try’ conveys the idea that this is not easy but I will do my best to fit it in or achieve it.

Rather than a natural evolution, it seems as if you are going out of your way so that it can take place.

And when you are in this frame of mind (which often happens when couples have been ‘trying’ for a while or in the early stages of breastfeeding), the pressure increases, anxiety moves up a notch and the fear that you may not succeed escalates.

It can be useful then to let go of the word ‘trying’ and replace it with ‘allowing’.

In allowing, there is space for fun, excitement, relaxation and even magic. This is the kind of energy that will attract to you what you want.

When you were learning to walk. You didn’t ‘try’. You delighted in the process of movement. You allowed yourself to explore, develop your muscles and practice taking baby steps.

Even when you fell you were getting closer to your goal. There was absolutely no sense of failure.   

How does ‘trying’ make you feel? How might that effect your relationship?

How can you liberate yourself from ‘trying’ and open up to more fun, pleasure and delight in your fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and life?

 In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Pregnancy, fertility and pleasure are intimately connected. They are very good friends. Or at least they should be.

I know I have posted on this before. But pleasure warrants attention.

Nature demonstrated this clearly by gifting us an organ designed for pleasure alone. This magical creation, your clitoris, was strategically placed in your reproductive system.

How much more obvious could it be? Not only is pleasure core to being a woman, it is an essential part of your fertility, pregnancy and mothering story. 

 

How have you been blocking pleasure? What can you do today to welcome more pleasure into your experience of pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and relationship?

 

In joy,

 

Deirdre Morris

 

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

I know Saint Valentine’s in over but this video is worth watching.

As you view, just be aware how the message might relate to what is going on for you in fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding or your relationship?

 http://www.attractinggenuinelove.com/movie1.html

What action could you take now to enhance your relationship with you, your body, your partner and your baby? 

 In joy,

 Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

This is a link to our latest BlogTalk radio show from the BreastFeeding Salon.

Maire Clements, Conscious Breastfeeding Consultant, Tracy Gary, Intuitive Nutritionist, myself and special guest Vanessa Tri Coche, Relationship Coach explore how to add love and spice to your relationship….

I suggest that you intend to be patient and hear exactly what you need now as the quality of this particular recording is not perfect.  

However, there is valuable information here…so listen to your own guidance!

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalon/2008/02/12/The-Breastfeeding-Salon-Intuition-NutritionMagicalBeginningsforBaby-Present-Food-for-Thought-2008

 In joy,
Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Cast an eye back on the different Valentine’s days in your life…..

Have you consistently felt loved, cared for, special, fancied and happy?

Or have you been repeatedly disappointed or upset by the absence or quality of appreciation or passion coming your way?

Valentine’s Day (for those who celebrate) … and your experience of it… exposes the thoughts and beliefs that you have about love, your lovableness, your worthiness of true love and the love others have for you.

Are you receiving fully all that you want?  What are you anticipating for tomorrow? Because that is exactly what you are attracting.

And how might these beliefs be interfering with inspired ferility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding or parenting?

Is it time to change your story? Because you can.

Begin by painting the scene of what you want around love e.g. to feel so worthy, so lovable, so loving etc. 

Now you are pointed in the right direction.

From here, it is much easier to open up to receiving what you want in your fertility, in pregnancy and birth and in your breastfeeding experience.

You were born to love and be loved.

Whether or not that is manifesting in your life depends completely on YOU.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

www.magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

(1) Fertility Reflection: Could Paul’s story mirror in any way your fertility? (2) Pregnancy Reflection: What aspects of this experience would you like to have in pregnancy? 

(3) Birth/Conception Reflection: Paul’s amazing gift and inspiration were not apparent initially. How might that relate to the experience of conception or birth? 

(4) Miscarriage reflection: Paul’s performance was brief but the impact was enormous and it lifted the crowd to a new level of awareness. Does this link in any way to your experience of miscarriage?   

 (5) How might this clip influence your relationship with yourself (and your dreams), your partner, your breastfeeding and how you want to parent?

You can watch it again imagining that Paul is representing your sperm, egg, womb, fertility, pregnancy, baby or body etc. as he steps beyond his perceived limits and lets his light shine.

Thanks Paul! 

In joy,

Deirdre