Today’s blogtalk radio show with Maire Clements, Tracy Gary and myself discussed baby’s first stage psychosocial development of Trust Versus Mistrust.

During this time, your baby learns (through mom and dad) that he or she can trust the world or otherwise.

We explored how conscious breastfeeding supports this process beautifully and also looked at additional ways that we can help baby to negotiate this stage successfully so that she emerges confident and happy.

This show also focused in on dads, their importance and wonder and how we can empower them in their parenting role.

Click here to listen to the show.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris 

For men and women alike there can be much anxiety around changes in your sex life once you become pregnant and after baby is born.

The following 7 tips will help you enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life during pregnancy and following the birth of your baby.

(1) Understanding Your Responsibility In Sex

  Firstly, it is important to remember that you are not responsible for your partner or meeting the sexual needs of your partner.  

Women often experience guilt during pregnancy or when breastfeeding if they are not as sexually active as before. However, this comes from the flawed idea (often hidden in the recesses of our mind) that it is a woman’s duty to satisfy her partner.

  In sex as in every other area, each of us is responsible for managing our own feelings (our vibration). Just remembering that fact can be very good for your sex life. 

(2) Be open to changes that occur in your sex life.

  Many of us observe a different rhythm with regard to our sexual needs during pregnancy and after birth. (Different doesn’t necessarily mean less). Just allow what ever comes up to be.  

(3) Intend That Your Sex Life Will Actually Improve

  Decide that regardless of how it appears, this process will actually nourish and enhance your sex life and your love for each other. Talk about this with your partner and you can both visualise a much richer expression of intimacy and love.  

(4) Modeling To Your Baby

Discuss with your partner the messages you want to pass on to your unborn child or new baby. For example, if you both want your baby to be able to honour his or her own needs, you can start modelling that now in your sex life.

  This means that it is so alright for both of you to ask for what you want without judgement. And also it is alright for both to respond truthfully knowing that you are still loved, worthy of love and lovable.

(5) Tenderness Independent of Sex

Make room for lots of love and tenderness independent of sex. So you might start the day for example with naked cuddles in which the goal is just to enjoy each other’s bodies and connect in love.

(6) Big Yes v Small Yes

  Sometimes you may not be interested in intercourse when your partner is, but you are open to loving in other ways. John Gray (Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus) suggests having a little candle and a big candle beside the bed (one on each side).   

A big candle indicates ‘Yes, I feel like making love/ having sex’. A little candle communicates ‘I am not in the mood for sex but I am happy to play around (give you a hand)’.

  (7) Listen to Your Inner Wisdom 

Remember that when you are pregnant and feeding you are particularly connected to a deep wisdom within you. Embrace whatever comes up for you as an expression of your goddess energy…the sacred feminine within you.

  As you do so, your partner finds it much easier to step into his sacred masculine and the relationship (including sex) is elevated to a whole new level of fulfilment and satisfaction for you both.     In joy,
Deirdre Morris

Our relationship with our sacred feminine has a significant impact on our experience of fertility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and of course our relationships.

Yesterday on blog talk radio, Maire Clements, Tracy Gary and myself discussed how we can really honour the Goddess within.

Part of the discussion also tapped into how we can support our babies and children to embrace their own sacred selves (male and female) so they can feel whole and comfortable in their wonderful bodies. 

To listen click here: http://www.Blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalon/2008/05/13/The-Breastfeeding-Salon

You are very welcome to leave comments or join us live on the next inspiring Conscious Breastfeeding Blog Talk Radio Show.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Regardless of what is going on for you now, you have choice.

You can move forward from here in the direction of your dreams feeling supported and loved.

Click on the link below to watch this beautiful 2 minute movie and appreciate your way to that wonderful conception, pregnancy, birth and family life.

http://heartmath.com/million_hearts/?mtcEmail=cashmerecoaching@verizon.net&mtcCampaign=2026

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

This one minute video summaries research that looked at how the power of intention can influence the food we eat and its effect on us.

http://oneminuteshift.com/videos/dean_radin/intentional_chocolate

In the experiment those who ate the chocolate that had been ‘infused’ with positive thoughts felt much better than the control group.

How does this apply to you?

Well ,if you are trying to become pregnant, you can begin to intend that everything you eat is infused with fertility enhancing energy.

In pregnancy you can intend that your meals are laced with health, vitality and paving the way for a gentle, safe birth.

If breastfeeding, you can intend to add the energy of abundant milk, relaxation and deep, easy, successful connection with baby.

When feeding your baby (with the breast or otherwise), you can visualise vitality, happiness and well-being on every level being absorbed easily by your very happy baby.

To support your relationship, play with the idea that every bite brings more laughter, support and delight for you both.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

We are in the process of putting the BlogTalk Radio show on itunes.

In order to speed up  this process, you might feel inspired to request the show. 

You can do this through the itunes widget on http://www.blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalonor by requesting the podcast on itunes.

It will update the shows so that they can be downloaded. 

We also invite you to ask a friend to listen in so that this service can continue to grow.

As ever, your questions are very welcome and Maire Clements is arranging some wonderful guests who will be of interest to those exploring fertility, pregnancy and relationship too.

Thanking you all,

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

We live in an amazing universe.

And while we often experience concerns about how we can make something happen, the truth is that within every single true desire lies the mechanism for its fulfillment (Deepak Chopra).

There is evidence of this in your own origins. When your father’s sperm fertilized your mother’s egg, a craving arose within the egg to grow and become a new life in the world.

And along with this yearning came the ability of the egg to divide and create a placenta that would support this process.

Before that, the aspiration of the sperm was to reach the egg and so the need to create a placenta was not relevant then.

As we take steps forward in the direction of our dreams….healthy pregnancy…safe, gentle birth or real joy in breastfeeding, partnership and parenting we are provided with the tools, abilities and supports we require.

Just like the sperm (or the egg), our job is to take the first step though and move forward in trust.

What it is that you desire and what is a baby step you can take now to move closer to your dream?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

We know that the first important step is setting your intention and deciding exactly where you want to go in fertility, birth, breastfeeding and beyond. 

Another factor that influences your success in fertility, relationship and parenting is the kind of support you have in your life.

‘You are the average of the five people you spend most of your time with’ (Jim Rohn).

So if these people doubt your fertility or ability to have a safe, empowering birth for example this will have an impact on your experience (subconsciously or otherwise).

Do the people you spend most time with believe in your body’s wisdom, in your capacity to breastfeed with ease or in the possibility that you really can thrive in relationship and parenting?

Surround yourself with people who share your vision.

Join local or on-line groups. Hire a coach and a doula. Read books that support you in the direction of your dreams. Tune into empowering radio and t.v. shows.

And give yourself the permission to take a break from relationships and conversations that are going in another direction.

You are the master of your life.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Whether wanting to be pregnant or preparing for birth and beyond, counting your blessings is an easy yet powerful way of supporting yourself.

As you become aware of all that is wonderful in your life your focus shifts from fear and anxiety to one of gratitude causing your whole energy and physiology to change.

The vibration that you emit into the universe becomes one of joy and you begin to attract even more experiences and events that will illicit gratitude and trigger feelings of being blessed.

In this state, you are much more attractive to success in fertility or gentle, safe birth.

So take a few minutes to notice all your blessings today no matter how small and know you will be enjoying the natural side effect of supporting your body, your baby, your fertility and your relationship.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris 

Pregnancy brings many changes …some obvious and some more subtle.

Boundaries are blurred as your body opens up to this pregnancy and this new soul who will be, for some time, part of your physical being.

In pregnancy and while breastfeeding, your natural protection from the outside world is less clear so that you can embrace fully the role of mother and the intimacy it involves.

You may find yourself being very sensitive to the environment, to others, their moods, words etc.

Comments that previously would have gone right over your head, may be felt deeply now.

Your partner can really support you at this time by being that additional protection for you and baby and by filtering out people or information that may cause disturbance so that you can enjoy peace and tranquillity at this time.

Let your partner know how he (or she) can help you. Be clear. He needs your guidance. Give him positive feedback when you do perceive this protection.

This will be nourishing for your relationship and will also help him to ease into his role as father.  

In joy,

Deirdre Morris