My Special Report on ‘Breastfeeding Success with the Law of Attraction’ is now available as a gift to you.

This report has many great ideas as to how you can harness the Law of Attraction to support your Breastfeeding and is a tool you can begin to use long before birth (and pregnancy too).

You can either click on the Breastfeeding Page above or click here.

Visualising great joy for you and your baby in breastfeeding!

Deirdre Morris

I had the great pleasure of interviewing Debra Pascal-Bonaro, internationally renowned childbirth expert. Debra has recently completed her first film which is a documentary called Orgasmic Birth following the stories of 11 women.

Debra explained that because it is now seen as a medical event, we have forgotten that birth is actually part of a woman’s sexual life.

If you were to consider birth in this manner what would you be asking for?

According to Debra, the best kept secret of birth is that 20% of women who are not medicated report having orgasm during birth.

So what are you asking for and expecting? If you were to open up to the idea that birth is a sensual experience what would be different about your current birth plan?

Are you hoping to survive birth or would you love your birth to be am empowering, sensual experience connecting you to your deep wisdom and a pleasure for you, your partner and your baby?

You can take the first step towards an orgasmic birth…..by daring to dream. Write out what you would love and play with the idea that a sensual birth really is a possibility for you and your baby. 

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

As a result of pelvic pain when walking (which began shortly after I became pregnant), I decided to seek the advice of a physiotherapist.

One of her recommendations was to take smaller steps and walk using my whole body.

So now I am walking again without pain. My pace is slower at the moment as I retrain my brain, develop new neural pathways around walking and allow more muscles to support me.

During this process, it came to me that I need to take baby steps in all areas of my life now - not just when walking.

So I took this message from my body and started taking baby steps in other areas too. I noticed that as I do this, it seems that I am summoning forth support from other avenues (other muscles) that I didn’t even consider before.

 And as I trust more that baby steps are guidance from my deep wisdom, I relax and grow in confidence thereby attracting more experiences that illicit these feelings.

Perhaps you have pain or discomfort in your precious body.

 What might it be telling you? And how can you take on board this amazing guidance today so that you can attract more of what you want in fertility, pregnancy, birth and beyond with your baby?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Your baby’s sexual development begins during pregnancy.

I am referring not only to the actual physical development of organs that determine sex but also to the beliefs and experience around sex to which she is exposed in the womb

Armed with this knowledge you can set your baby on the path to an empowering, positive experience of her sexuality and a very healthy attitude towards sex.

For example, let her know when you are pleasuring yourself or making love ….reminding her that we were given wonderful bodies to enjoy ourselves and each other.

Bring her attention to how good it feels to be with somebody with whom you share a mutual love and respect. Model to her the joy of receiving love and enjoying your body.

When a request is made by either of you in love-making, bring that too to her attention, letting her know that it is always ok to ask for what you want.

If you or your partner are not in the mood, honour that by expressing it… thereby demonstrating to your baby that it issafe to communicate your feelings -that you are not responsible for meeting the needs of your partner (or visa versa).

Before orgasm, prepare your baby. Tell her that she will feel contractions in the womb but that it is not yet time to be born. Suggest to her that she enjoy the sensations and the feelings of love.

These comments will support your baby in being comfortable in her own sexuality and expression of same. It will also prepare you both for very healthy conversations about sexuality when she is older.

Sex is beautiful. It is how we all we began.

Shame and guilt do not belong in our sexuality and we can begin now to ensure that our babies are born feeling a sense of wholeness, joy and self-respect around their bodies and their sexuality.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Baby’s  first stage of psychosocial development is a time during which he learns either to trust or mistrust the world.

Naturally, we all want what is the best for baby. However, sometimes this means that we don’t tell baby the truth so as not to cause unnecessary upset.

So, for example, Dad might leave the house and say that he will be back soon when in fact he will be gone for a few days.

In this scenario what baby learns is:

(1) They don’t think I can cope

(2) What they say is not the truth

Your baby in the womb and outside will feel much more trust and confidence if he knows that what you say is true.

In telling him the truth that Dad is going away for a few days you are subtly communicating several important messages to your very perceptive baby:

(1) that Dad being gone for a few days is ok

(2) that Mom is more that capable of coping

(3) your confidence that baby can cope too and will be fine

(4) that all is well even if it is a little different

(5) that Dad will be back when he says so

Babies learn my imitation…this includes our emotional habits. And if we communicate confidence and trust then this is what baby will learn.

Our job is not to prevent baby from experiencing different emotions because they are part and parcel of human experience.

Our job is to empower them with an understanding of emotions and how to manage them.

So give yourself permission to tell your baby what is really going on with the intention that baby learns to trust you, his environment and, most importantly, himself.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

This blog talk show explored some of the feelings that come up in breastfeeding and when baby first arrives.

Tracy explained how she moved from overwhelm into empowerment when she was a new mom. Now pregnant again, she also shared with us her gentle, intuitive approach to weaning.

Click here to listen:

http://www.Blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalon/2008/06/03/The-Breastfeeding-Salon

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

For men and women alike there can be much anxiety around changes in your sex life once you become pregnant and after baby is born.

The following 7 tips will help you enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life during pregnancy and following the birth of your baby.

(1) Understanding Your Responsibility In Sex

  Firstly, it is important to remember that you are not responsible for your partner or meeting the sexual needs of your partner.  

Women often experience guilt during pregnancy or when breastfeeding if they are not as sexually active as before. However, this comes from the flawed idea (often hidden in the recesses of our mind) that it is a woman’s duty to satisfy her partner.

  In sex as in every other area, each of us is responsible for managing our own feelings (our vibration). Just remembering that fact can be very good for your sex life. 

(2) Be open to changes that occur in your sex life.

  Many of us observe a different rhythm with regard to our sexual needs during pregnancy and after birth. (Different doesn’t necessarily mean less). Just allow what ever comes up to be.  

(3) Intend That Your Sex Life Will Actually Improve

  Decide that regardless of how it appears, this process will actually nourish and enhance your sex life and your love for each other. Talk about this with your partner and you can both visualise a much richer expression of intimacy and love.  

(4) Modeling To Your Baby

Discuss with your partner the messages you want to pass on to your unborn child or new baby. For example, if you both want your baby to be able to honour his or her own needs, you can start modelling that now in your sex life.

  This means that it is so alright for both of you to ask for what you want without judgement. And also it is alright for both to respond truthfully knowing that you are still loved, worthy of love and lovable.

(5) Tenderness Independent of Sex

Make room for lots of love and tenderness independent of sex. So you might start the day for example with naked cuddles in which the goal is just to enjoy each other’s bodies and connect in love.

(6) Big Yes v Small Yes

  Sometimes you may not be interested in intercourse when your partner is, but you are open to loving in other ways. John Gray (Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus) suggests having a little candle and a big candle beside the bed (one on each side).   

A big candle indicates ‘Yes, I feel like making love/ having sex’. A little candle communicates ‘I am not in the mood for sex but I am happy to play around (give you a hand)’.

  (7) Listen to Your Inner Wisdom 

Remember that when you are pregnant and feeding you are particularly connected to a deep wisdom within you. Embrace whatever comes up for you as an expression of your goddess energy…the sacred feminine within you.

  As you do so, your partner finds it much easier to step into his sacred masculine and the relationship (including sex) is elevated to a whole new level of fulfilment and satisfaction for you both.     In joy,
Deirdre Morris

What images come to mind when you hear the phrase ‘she fell pregnant’?

 The term ‘falling pregnant’ evokes in me an image of a careless woman tripping to the floor. It implies some mishap for sure and sounds as though pregnancy is something that has happened, by chance almost, to this woman.  

‘Falling pregnant’ conceals the truth. It hides the power of the woman who has chosen consciously to bring forth new life into the world through her body. It does not so much as hint at her ability to engage in deliberate creation.

 And it sounds as though her partner has done something to her…overlooking her joyful, conscious participation in co-creation with the father of her baby.

Words matter. They shape our experience. As one book reminds us ‘In the beginning was the word’. 

So I in invite you to acknowledge your power and consider ‘becoming pregnant’, ‘embracing pregnancy’ or ‘allowing pregnancy’ as you consciously participate in the magical conception of your new baby.

In our preparations for birth our attention often goes to the practicalities such as having baby clothes, buggies, diapers and the never ending list of items that we have come to associate with baby’s arrival. 

  And while these are important, it can be easy to forget that mental, emotional and spiritual preparation during pregnancy can have a powerfully positive impact on setting you up for the safe, gentle empowering birth that you deserve. 

The following tips while simple, will definitely support you in claiming for yourself and your baby the magical beginning that you both deserve.

(1)   Develop the habit of talking to your baby.

We all love to be acknowledged, noticed and included. It makes us feel special and important. It fosters a sense of belonging. And while we are aware that children love positive attention and thrive on it, we often forget that the exact same thing is true of baby in utero.

So practice chatting to your baby, letting her know what is going on and including her in family life from the beginning. Several times a day place your hands conscious on your pregnant belly and tell her you love her and how happy you are that she is here.

When she feels welcome, she will find it easier to leave the safety of the womb and come into this world in a peaceful, relaxed way

(2)   Tell her how well she is doing in her development.

We all love our work to be acknowledged and admired. Point out her achievement. Every so often remind her of what is going on in her development…’you have grown to 15cms, you have lovely arms and legs’ or ‘now you are making your brain and spinal chord’. Point out how easy it was for her. Get her used to the idea that she is a success.

Then as she prepares for birth and goes down the birth canal, she already has the message that she is a success and can do this with ease.

 (3)   Inform yourself what birth looks like from your baby’s perspective. This will help you get an understanding of what it is like for your baby and will also remind you that your amazing body and your baby are designed to work harmoniously together as a powerful team with ease during birth.  

(4)   Explain to your baby what will be happening from her point of view. We all find it easier to be relaxed and confident when we have an idea what is coming up and what is expected of us.

Invite her to come head first with her face down and let her know that this is the easiest position for you both.  Inform her that there will be contractions that will start high in the uterus and move down and that their purpose is to support her down the birth canal. Let her know that you will be there supporting her and ready to hold her when she comes out.(5)   Be kind to yourself.

Choose easy options during pregnancy so that you are modelling to her this habit..because she is watching.  Instead of carrying two bags carry one. Ask for help when you need it. Take a nap when you are tired. Practice self nurturing and being very gentle on yourself. And as you do, bring that to your baby’s attention. So when you decide to take a rest instead of doing some work you had planned, say to baby ‘See mommy is choosing the easy way because that is much nicer and safer of us both…just like you will choose to come head down and face down’.  ‘We can both make decisions that really support us and we deserve to have a lovely birth.’(6)  Inform yourself about how wonderful birth can really be. 

Most of us have received the download that birth is a horrible ordeal, something we have to endure. However this is not the truth. Women are designed to give birth vaginally. Your amazing body has been preparing gently for this event. As you allow yourself to consider and relax into the knowledge that you have the power to experience a safe, gentle birth your body will respond to this message.  Birth can be painless and even orgasmic. Surround yourself with books, websites and other sources of information that remind you of your infinite wisdom and the right you have to joy in birth. Your baby will love to be exposed to the idea that birth can be a beautiful event for you both and the more you focus on this the easier it is for her to cooperate in this vision. (7)  Practice relaxing and visualising a wonderful birth for you both. 

Take the time to relax daily with meditation, yoga or other method that helps you quiet your mind and tune into the wisdom of the body. 

Picture the birth you desire in your mind’s eye. Imagine and feel efficient contractions, gentle and steady dilation of the cervix and perfect stretching of your perineum. See your very confident, relaxed baby working in harmony with your body as she gently makes her way into the world for the very first time.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Our relationship with our sacred feminine has a significant impact on our experience of fertility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and of course our relationships.

Yesterday on blog talk radio, Maire Clements, Tracy Gary and myself discussed how we can really honour the Goddess within.

Part of the discussion also tapped into how we can support our babies and children to embrace their own sacred selves (male and female) so they can feel whole and comfortable in their wonderful bodies. 

To listen click here: http://www.Blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalon/2008/05/13/The-Breastfeeding-Salon

You are very welcome to leave comments or join us live on the next inspiring Conscious Breastfeeding Blog Talk Radio Show.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris