Those of you who are pregnant or have been will know how it feels to suddenly find difficult some movements (like getting out of bed or sitting up) as the muscles in your abdomen relax due to changes in hormones.

My physiotherapist explained that in normal circumstances (when one is not pregnant), the muscles in your abdomen lead the way in many of your gross movements. So when you decide to stand up… your abdomen contracts first and then your legs and torso follow.

However, during and after pregnancy, this does not happen (they don’t perform their anticipatory function) with the result that movements can be laborious and even painful.

Tip: If you contract the muscles in your abdomen first and then move to sit/ stand up, it is so much easier.

Such a simple tip but it makes a big difference. Try it!

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

It is easy to get caught up in life. It is much nicer to refocus and become clear about your priorities.

This beautiful video reminded me that what I want for my babies  (in utero) is to give them a safe, loving home… to enjoy them fully, give them space and have lots of fun …..AND to empower them with skills and freedom to express their uniqueness in the world and create what they want.

LOVE is so very powerful and continues forever even if we are not aware of it.

Be warned! This may bring a few tears to your eyes.

Click here to view and notice what it brings up for you.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

I was very fortunate recently to attend a conference with Deepak Chopra in Barcelona. He reminded me so much of our fertility, pregnancy and birth stories as well as our relationship with parenting, breastfeeding and all else that comes with being a woman in a modern world.

We experience ourselves as solid physical beings. That is how we perceive the world. When we look at a chair our brains see a solid entity…something permanent.

However this is, in fact, false and occurs only because our brains and nervous systems are not capable of registering what is actually taking place.

In reality, everything is energy and information flashing in and out of existence at speeds greater than light. Although we experience life as a continuity (the chair I am sitting is always in this spot), it is in fact a discontinuity flashing on and off.

What happens for us is that the memory of the chair (your fertility, pregnancy, baby and partner etc.) lingers while in the ‘off’ phase so we perceive it as always being there in the same way.

Chopra compared this to a movie which appears to be a continuous stream of visual and audio information but is in fact a series of still frames..24 per second… which is faster than the brain’s ability to process. So we see a continuous film instead of the on/off that is really happening.

Our expectations, memories and desires acutally shape what is going to happen next….what is going to come into existence.

So with regard to fertility, for example, your expectation will have an impact on what will happen for you. The same applies to breastfeeding, birth and parenting.

Looking back on your history or experience only perpetuates the illusion of continuity and brings more of what you have had in the past.

You are the creator of your experience and this moment is your moment of power.

So look forward to what you want in your fertility.  Visualise a pain-free, empowering birth.  See yourself and your baby absolutely thriving in breastfeeding. Imagine amazing support surrounding you as you relax into financial freedom.

And let the next flash ‘on’ come from the new life story you are telling yourself…the one in which you are a successful, amazing, empowered, supported, nourished mother who is fully in tune with your wonderful body, deep wisdom and infinite intelligence. 

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

My Special Report on ‘Breastfeeding Success with the Law of Attraction’ is now available as a gift to you.

This report has many great ideas as to how you can harness the Law of Attraction to support your Breastfeeding and is a tool you can begin to use long before birth (and pregnancy too).

You can either click on the Breastfeeding Page above or click here.

Visualising great joy for you and your baby in breastfeeding!

Deirdre Morris

I had the great pleasure of interviewing Debra Pascal-Bonaro, internationally renowned childbirth expert. Debra has recently completed her first film which is a documentary called Orgasmic Birth following the stories of 11 women.

Debra explained that because it is now seen as a medical event, we have forgotten that birth is actually part of a woman’s sexual life.

If you were to consider birth in this manner what would you be asking for?

According to Debra, the best kept secret of birth is that 20% of women who are not medicated report having orgasm during birth.

So what are you asking for and expecting? If you were to open up to the idea that birth is a sensual experience what would be different about your current birth plan?

Are you hoping to survive birth or would you love your birth to be am empowering, sensual experience connecting you to your deep wisdom and a pleasure for you, your partner and your baby?

You can take the first step towards an orgasmic birth…..by daring to dream. Write out what you would love and play with the idea that a sensual birth really is a possibility for you and your baby. 

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

As a result of pelvic pain when walking (which began shortly after I became pregnant), I decided to seek the advice of a physiotherapist.

One of her recommendations was to take smaller steps and walk using my whole body.

So now I am walking again without pain. My pace is slower at the moment as I retrain my brain, develop new neural pathways around walking and allow more muscles to support me.

During this process, it came to me that I need to take baby steps in all areas of my life now - not just when walking.

So I took this message from my body and started taking baby steps in other areas too. I noticed that as I do this, it seems that I am summoning forth support from other avenues (other muscles) that I didn’t even consider before.

 And as I trust more that baby steps are guidance from my deep wisdom, I relax and grow in confidence thereby attracting more experiences that illicit these feelings.

Perhaps you have pain or discomfort in your precious body.

 What might it be telling you? And how can you take on board this amazing guidance today so that you can attract more of what you want in fertility, pregnancy, birth and beyond with your baby?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Your baby’s sexual development begins during pregnancy.

I am referring not only to the actual physical development of organs that determine sex but also to the beliefs and experience around sex to which she is exposed in the womb

Armed with this knowledge you can set your baby on the path to an empowering, positive experience of her sexuality and a very healthy attitude towards sex.

For example, let her know when you are pleasuring yourself or making love ….reminding her that we were given wonderful bodies to enjoy ourselves and each other.

Bring her attention to how good it feels to be with somebody with whom you share a mutual love and respect. Model to her the joy of receiving love and enjoying your body.

When a request is made by either of you in love-making, bring that too to her attention, letting her know that it is always ok to ask for what you want.

If you or your partner are not in the mood, honour that by expressing it… thereby demonstrating to your baby that it issafe to communicate your feelings -that you are not responsible for meeting the needs of your partner (or visa versa).

Before orgasm, prepare your baby. Tell her that she will feel contractions in the womb but that it is not yet time to be born. Suggest to her that she enjoy the sensations and the feelings of love.

These comments will support your baby in being comfortable in her own sexuality and expression of same. It will also prepare you both for very healthy conversations about sexuality when she is older.

Sex is beautiful. It is how we all we began.

Shame and guilt do not belong in our sexuality and we can begin now to ensure that our babies are born feeling a sense of wholeness, joy and self-respect around their bodies and their sexuality.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Baby’s  first stage of psychosocial development is a time during which he learns either to trust or mistrust the world.

Naturally, we all want what is the best for baby. However, sometimes this means that we don’t tell baby the truth so as not to cause unnecessary upset.

So, for example, Dad might leave the house and say that he will be back soon when in fact he will be gone for a few days.

In this scenario what baby learns is:

(1) They don’t think I can cope

(2) What they say is not the truth

Your baby in the womb and outside will feel much more trust and confidence if he knows that what you say is true.

In telling him the truth that Dad is going away for a few days you are subtly communicating several important messages to your very perceptive baby:

(1) that Dad being gone for a few days is ok

(2) that Mom is more that capable of coping

(3) your confidence that baby can cope too and will be fine

(4) that all is well even if it is a little different

(5) that Dad will be back when he says so

Babies learn my imitation…this includes our emotional habits. And if we communicate confidence and trust then this is what baby will learn.

Our job is not to prevent baby from experiencing different emotions because they are part and parcel of human experience.

Our job is to empower them with an understanding of emotions and how to manage them.

So give yourself permission to tell your baby what is really going on with the intention that baby learns to trust you, his environment and, most importantly, himself.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

This blog talk show explored some of the feelings that come up in breastfeeding and when baby first arrives.

Tracy explained how she moved from overwhelm into empowerment when she was a new mom. Now pregnant again, she also shared with us her gentle, intuitive approach to weaning.

Click here to listen:

http://www.Blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalon/2008/06/03/The-Breastfeeding-Salon

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

For men and women alike there can be much anxiety around changes in your sex life once you become pregnant and after baby is born.

The following 7 tips will help you enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life during pregnancy and following the birth of your baby.

(1) Understanding Your Responsibility In Sex

  Firstly, it is important to remember that you are not responsible for your partner or meeting the sexual needs of your partner.  

Women often experience guilt during pregnancy or when breastfeeding if they are not as sexually active as before. However, this comes from the flawed idea (often hidden in the recesses of our mind) that it is a woman’s duty to satisfy her partner.

  In sex as in every other area, each of us is responsible for managing our own feelings (our vibration). Just remembering that fact can be very good for your sex life. 

(2) Be open to changes that occur in your sex life.

  Many of us observe a different rhythm with regard to our sexual needs during pregnancy and after birth. (Different doesn’t necessarily mean less). Just allow what ever comes up to be.  

(3) Intend That Your Sex Life Will Actually Improve

  Decide that regardless of how it appears, this process will actually nourish and enhance your sex life and your love for each other. Talk about this with your partner and you can both visualise a much richer expression of intimacy and love.  

(4) Modeling To Your Baby

Discuss with your partner the messages you want to pass on to your unborn child or new baby. For example, if you both want your baby to be able to honour his or her own needs, you can start modelling that now in your sex life.

  This means that it is so alright for both of you to ask for what you want without judgement. And also it is alright for both to respond truthfully knowing that you are still loved, worthy of love and lovable.

(5) Tenderness Independent of Sex

Make room for lots of love and tenderness independent of sex. So you might start the day for example with naked cuddles in which the goal is just to enjoy each other’s bodies and connect in love.

(6) Big Yes v Small Yes

  Sometimes you may not be interested in intercourse when your partner is, but you are open to loving in other ways. John Gray (Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus) suggests having a little candle and a big candle beside the bed (one on each side).   

A big candle indicates ‘Yes, I feel like making love/ having sex’. A little candle communicates ‘I am not in the mood for sex but I am happy to play around (give you a hand)’.

  (7) Listen to Your Inner Wisdom 

Remember that when you are pregnant and feeding you are particularly connected to a deep wisdom within you. Embrace whatever comes up for you as an expression of your goddess energy…the sacred feminine within you.

  As you do so, your partner finds it much easier to step into his sacred masculine and the relationship (including sex) is elevated to a whole new level of fulfilment and satisfaction for you both.     In joy,
Deirdre Morris