The omission of miscarriage from our family and community rituals reflect a male experience of life and, more specifically, a religious or spiritual understanding of life and death limited to the male perspective. Men don’t have miscarriages and don’t have first hand experience of a tiny life living and dying inside. And that is ok.
This question came in recently.
It can be so hard to be positive when we have experienced miscarriage. This is understandable because it represents loss…a huge loss.
And when you have had more that one miscarriage, not alone have you lost babies …but you can begin to lose hope, confidence and a sense of yourself as whole, feminine and healthy.
It is always useful to allow yourself to feel whatever is coming up. These emotions are there anyway. But if you keep them under wraps, they just bubble away.
From the Law of Attraction perspective, this energy …these vibrations are part of what you are sending out to the universe and attracting. And that is not what you want.
So you might like to get a sheet of paper and just allow yourself to put down all the feelings and thoughts that are coming up without any judgment.
This is a good start. And know that as you are doing that, you are creating room for what you want. After doing this, take a few moments to breath in love and understanding into your body.
My book ´Get Pregnant and Stay Pregnant with the Law of Attraction: Your 5 Step Process to Fertility Success´explains how you can support yourself following miscarriage AND how you can move forward.
The ebook will be available in the next month and I will be announcing it on my blog.
Thank you so much for asking this question. Thank you for your courage.
Much love to you and your babies,
Deirdre Morris
As you have probably noticed, I have not made any posts since the turn of the month.
That is because I was bringing to completion my new e-book ‘Get Pregnant and Stay Pregnant with the Law of Attraction’ and everything else took a back seat.
I am delighted to report that it is finished and will be available for sale in about a month.
The book shares a step-by-step process to bring you into alignment with success in pregnancy and aims to serve women who have experienced fertility challenges as well as women who want to consciously conceive and bring a new soul into the world with ease and confidence.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
It is up to you to claim the power and gift of Mother’s day for yourself.
If you have experienced miscarriage or are simply trying to have baby Mother’s Day still belongs to you.
Instead of waiting for somebody else to start the ball rolling, celebrate the mother in you by lavishing yourself today with the same love, tenderness and joy as you would if you were your own very welcome, precious, perfect new baby.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
Maybe you have experienced miscarriages or perhaps it is your age, but for some reason you are in the ‘high risk’ pregnancy category.
And instead of realising that you are a completely unique individual, maybe it seems that books and your gynecologist/doctors keep referring to your pregnancy as ‘high risk’.
But instead of allowing ‘high risk’ pregnancy to be a weight on your shoulders, you can choose to hear it in another way entirely.
If you are more mature or have experienced challenges in your fertility you are high risk for sure….
You are high risk for really appreciating fully this pregnancy.
You are high risk for prioritising the pregnancy in your life.
You are high risk for being really ready to receive this wonderful baby in your life.
You are high risk for being able to embrace fully the gift of parenthood.
So next time somebody refers to yours as a ‘high risk’ pregnancy…nod to yourself and think ’Yes, there is a very high risk that I am going to experience more joy, love and magic than I ever thought possible’.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
Many of the questions I receive around challenges in fertility include within them a reason why this woman might be having difficulty.
For example, women comment on alcohol consumption, arguments with partners, abortion, previous miscarriage etc.
But what many of them are sharing is a sense that perhaps they don’t really, fully deserve to be the mother of a healthy, happy baby.
What was your initial reaction when you read the title of this post?
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate yourself?
1=I am not really good enough to be a mother
10=I am SO good enough to be a mother
What are the images that came up for you when you read this. Where does your mind bring you….to the positive or to the negative?
If you are planning to become pregnant or have experienced challenges in your fertility, it can be useful to see whether your natural response is one of self-criticism or kindness to yourself.
If, somewhere, you are not quite sure if you are good enough to be a mother, your subconscious mind will find evidence of that belief.
Is that what you want? Is it time to release beliefs that take away from the wonder of who you are?
How could you begin that now… and take another step toward success in your fertility, joy in pregnancy and fulfillment in mothering your lovely, healthy baby?
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
It is my intention to support women in inspired fertility, pregnancy, birth and beyond.
It is also my intention to serve women who have experienced miscarriage.
These groups have very different needs and it does not feel congruent to be posting blogs that may be relevant only to some of my readers.
It has felt as if I was pointing in two directions simultaneously.
As a result, over the coming weeks I will be setting up a very special blog that nourishes and supports women who have had miscarriage.
Miscarriage warrants this special attention and I want to honour that.
And so, magicalbeginningsforbaby.com will now focus entirely on magical beginnings for baby….like the name says…bringing you to where you want to be in fertility, pregnancy, birth and early parenting.
Some readers may be interested in more than one blog and are welcome to be part of both communities. But that choice will be yours.
I look forward to serving more deeply is a result. If you have any questions, suggestions or comments, please let me know.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
What can I do not to miscarry after 5 weeks? Thank you for this question and for joining us here in a space that really honours you, your fertility and your motherhood.
I experienced miscarriage because there was a part of me that was not quite ready yet. Intellectually I was. Physically too, so I thought.
But many of my patterns and habits did not reflect how I truly wanted to be in the world.
My core ached for something more. In my case, one of the issues that miscarriage made crystal clear for me was my need to create sacred space for my new family, to honour my needs and allow myself and others to meet them.
Up to then, the programme I was running was that I was responsible for others…that my needs were not important.
But that is incompatible with universal laws, with the kind of home life I yearned to create for our baby and the kind of mother I really wanted to be.
Something had to give.
Perhaps this resonates with you somewhere.
You might find it useful to allow yourself to really go within and ask what is the learning for you in your experience of miscarriage.
Is there something that needs to change in your life to experience success in your fertility and enjoy a full-term pregnancy and a safe, gentle birth?
Do you need to say ‘no’ to certain things or people and ‘yes’ to love, ease and happiness so that success in pregnancy becomes the next natural step for you?
What can you do now to begin your journey into inspired fertility?
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
You are loved, lovable and SO worthy of love.
That is just the way it is.
However, your life might be mirroring back to you the results of your faulty programming.
You can begin to develop new neural pathways to love by deliberately intending to feel more loved today (independent of what is going on around you).
Let all of your senses join in!
Tune your ears to hear simply sounds of love for you today.
Focus your vision to perceive only evidence of love.
Calibrate your skin to receive exclusively loving touch.
Welcome through your nostrils fragrances of love alone.
Speak nothing but words of love today.
And know that as you focus on love… it expands …and spills abundantly into your experience of fertility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and parenting.
Today is a magical beginning of love for you, your partner and your baby.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
Cast an eye back on the different Valentine’s days in your life…..
Have you consistently felt loved, cared for, special, fancied and happy?
Or have you been repeatedly disappointed or upset by the absence or quality of appreciation or passion coming your way?
Valentine’s Day (for those who celebrate) … and your experience of it… exposes the thoughts and beliefs that you have about love, your lovableness, your worthiness of true love and the love others have for you.
Are you receiving fully all that you want? What are you anticipating for tomorrow? Because that is exactly what you are attracting.
And how might these beliefs be interfering with inspired ferility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding or parenting?
Is it time to change your story? Because you can.
Begin by painting the scene of what you want around love e.g. to feel so worthy, so lovable, so loving etc.
Now you are pointed in the right direction.
From here, it is much easier to open up to receiving what you want in your fertility, in pregnancy and birth and in your breastfeeding experience.
You were born to love and be loved.
Whether or not that is manifesting in your life depends completely on YOU.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
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