On my walk this morning, I was greeted by a German Shepherd careering downhill towards me.

A quick glance noted soft eyes and a wagging tail. This beautiful beast changed direction and followed me back uphill.

I surmised that she was lost and took it upon myself to see if I could locate an owner.

After an hour of delightful meanderings along roads and byroads, I came to the conclusion that it was time for me to return home. I just hoped that we would meet somebody who knew my canine companion.

Soon after, a woman stopped in a car to inform me that ‘Pupi ’has a reputation for following strangers and is well used to finding her own way home.

There are two lessons in this story:

(1) Often we assume others need our help and they absolutely do not!

(2) If we insist on taking responsibility, be sure to enjoy the scenery. In this way, when we discover that we are surplus to requirements we can still feel good about the journey.

When experiencing challenges in fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and relationship it can be very useful to ask: ‘What do I feel so responsible for?’, ‘Am I really responsible for this?’ and ’Can I let it go?’.

You can redirect this energy into creating time and space for you… and setting yourself up for success in fertility, pregnancy, relationship, birth and breastfeeding.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Many couples wonder why they haven’t become pregnant even though they have been ‘trying’ for some time.

That word ‘trying’ is worth exploring. When you ’try’ something, there is the possibility that it will not work out.

‘Trying’ also suggests work. It is effortful and maybe even difficult.

Even the statement ‘I will really try’ conveys the idea that this is not easy but I will do my best to fit it in or achieve it.

Rather than a natural evolution, it seems as if you are going out of your way so that it can take place.

And when you are in this frame of mind (which often happens when couples have been ‘trying’ for a while or in the early stages of breastfeeding), the pressure increases, anxiety moves up a notch and the fear that you may not succeed escalates.

It can be useful then to let go of the word ‘trying’ and replace it with ‘allowing’.

In allowing, there is space for fun, excitement, relaxation and even magic. This is the kind of energy that will attract to you what you want.

When you were learning to walk. You didn’t ‘try’. You delighted in the process of movement. You allowed yourself to explore, develop your muscles and practice taking baby steps.

Even when you fell you were getting closer to your goal. There was absolutely no sense of failure.   

How does ‘trying’ make you feel? How might that effect your relationship?

How can you liberate yourself from ‘trying’ and open up to more fun, pleasure and delight in your fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and life?

 In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Pregnancy, fertility and pleasure are intimately connected. They are very good friends. Or at least they should be.

I know I have posted on this before. But pleasure warrants attention.

Nature demonstrated this clearly by gifting us an organ designed for pleasure alone. This magical creation, your clitoris, was strategically placed in your reproductive system.

How much more obvious could it be? Not only is pleasure core to being a woman, it is an essential part of your fertility, pregnancy and mothering story. 

How have you been blocking pleasure? What can you do today to welcome more pleasure into your experience of pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and relationship?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Babies love to be included. 

In the womb or outside, talking to your baby really supports him in his emotional and intellectual growth.

It doesn’t matter that he doesn’t appear to have the language skills yet. He has the basics and they develop through use.

Babies picks up on the energy and mood of what is being expressed and experience on a cellular level what is going on around them. 

You can reflect back to him what he is doing e.g. ‘you are stretching now’, ‘you are looking around’. This helps him to develop a sense of self.

Reminding him of how lovely, how loved and worthy of love he is fosters self-worth and keeps him in touch with this truth.

Even if you haven’t yet conceived, you can begin the process of communicating with your baby… telling him that he will be so welcome.

Just practice. Watch closely how your baby responds when you speak words of love (or feel it deeply if you are pregnant).

Notice too how you feel as you take the time to speak with love to your baby.  

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

You are loved, lovable and SO worthy of love.

That is just the way it is.

However, your life might be mirroring back to you the results of your faulty programming. 

You can begin to develop new neural pathways to love by deliberately intending to feel more loved today (independent of what is going on around you).

Let all of your senses join in!

Tune your ears to hear simply sounds of love for you today.

Focus your vision to perceive only evidence of love.

Calibrate your skin to receive exclusively loving touch.

Welcome through your nostrils fragrances of love alone.

Speak nothing but words of love today. 

And know that as you focus on love… it expands …and spills abundantly into your experience of fertility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and parenting.

Today is a magical beginning of love for you, your partner and your baby.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

www.magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Cast an eye back on the different Valentine’s days in your life…..

Have you consistently felt loved, cared for, special, fancied and happy?

Or have you been repeatedly disappointed or upset by the absence or quality of appreciation or passion coming your way?

Valentine’s Day (for those who celebrate) … and your experience of it… exposes the thoughts and beliefs that you have about love, your lovableness, your worthiness of true love and the love others have for you.

Are you receiving fully all that you want?  What are you anticipating for tomorrow? Because that is exactly what you are attracting.

And how might these beliefs be interfering with inspired ferility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding or parenting?

Is it time to change your story? Because you can.

Begin by painting the scene of what you want around love e.g. to feel so worthy, so lovable, so loving etc. 

Now you are pointed in the right direction.

From here, it is much easier to open up to receiving what you want in your fertility, in pregnancy and birth and in your breastfeeding experience.

You were born to love and be loved.

Whether or not that is manifesting in your life depends completely on YOU.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

www.magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Focus on fertility.

Focus on easy, joyful pregnancy….safe, empowering birth….gentle, abundant breastfeeding and glorious, love-filled life.

Click below to watch  this very short movie and do what you want from there!

http://www.TheFocusMovie.com

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Your experience of your fertility and all that fertility involves (including menstruation, ovulation, breastfeeding and sex) is intimately linked to your acceptance of self.

All elements of your fertility (and male fertility) are governed by a force that is much greater than the rational mind and ‘rules’ of what is right.

This powerful force comes from a much deeper place of being that is not limited by your current expression of ‘who you are’ or a limited view of the world.

Are menstrual/breastfeeding pains (fertility or pregnancy challenges) something that you have to ‘deal with’ while you get on with your ‘role’… or do you take them as opportunities to hear what is really going on for you?

Your fertility is a great friend indeed.

It will NOT tell you what you want to hear (e.g. you don’t need to change anything…).

It will NOT fit into the schedule of the way you ‘think’ things should be.

It will tell you the truth though… AND show you what you need to do to experience harmony in fertility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding etc.

Invariably, acting on the messages of your fertility always brings you to your deeper truth.

It allows you to create the room for the rest, tenderness, space, support, order, rhythm, time, joy, pleasure and softness that you really want and need now to thrive in your life.

What is your fertility and womanhood telling you now?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris  www.magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

What manifests for you in fertility, pregnancy, birth, womanhood and life is shaped in each moment by your thoughts, beliefs and feelings.

This short video is a reminder that you have the power to create what you want.

http://www.kumbayamovie.com/

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Maybe you are beginning to run out of hope that you will enjoy a healthy pregnancy and give birth to your beautiful new baby.

Or perhaps you are already pregnant and not feeling very confident in yourself.

You are looking to the evidence around and concluding that, for all you know, you are not going to become pregnant and give birth…. or be the calm, confident, happy parent you would love to be.

However, it may serve you to remember that 114 million years ago on this glorious planet, the very first flower ever came into being (A New Earth, Eckhart Tolle).

The earth had been covered in vegetation for millions of years before this miraculous event.  

A few weeks before it happened there was probably little or no evidence of what was going to take place.

And then suddenly it appeared.

What has this got to do with your fertility and mothering?

Don’t be distracted by the evidence of what has happened up until now.

Even if you have been a worrier, lacking in confidence all of your life…..you have the capacity to come into a peaceful, joyful place in your pregnancy and your life. 

And although you might have experienced miscarriage or other challenges in your fertility, know that the flower of your fertility can still bloom. 

You will attract the support you need if that is your intention.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris