Baby’s first stage of psychosocial development is a time during which he learns either to trust or mistrust the world.
Naturally, we all want what is the best for our baby. However, sometimes this means that we don’t tell our baby the truth so we don’t cause unnecessary upset.
So, for example, Dad might leave the house and say that he will be back soon when in fact he will be gone for a few days.
In this scenario what our baby learns is:
(1) They don’t think I can cope
(2) What they say is not the truth
Your baby in the womb and outside will feel much more trust and confidence if he knows that what you say is true.
In telling him the truth that Dad is going away for a few days you are subtly communicating several important messages to your very perceptive baby:
(1) that Dad being gone for a few days is ok
(2) that Mom is more that capable of coping
(3) your confidence that your baby can cope too and will be fine
(4) that all is well even if it is a little different
(5) that Dad will be back when he says so
Babies learn my imitation…this includes our emotional habits. If we communicate confidence and trust then this is what your baby will learn.
Our job is not to prevent a baby from experiencing different emotions because they are part and parcel of human experience.
Our job is to empower them with an understanding of emotions and how to manage them.
So give yourself permission to tell your baby what is really going on with the intention that the baby learns to trust you, his environment and, most importantly, himself.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
Today’s blogtalk radio show with Maire Clements, Tracy Gary and myself discussed a baby’s first stage of psychosocial development of Trust Versus Mistrust.
During this time, your baby learns (through mom and dad) that he or she can trust the world or otherwise.
We explored how conscious breastfeeding supports this process beautifully and also looked at additional ways that we can help our baby negotiate this stage successfully so that she emerges confident and happy.
This show also focused in on dads, their importance and wonder and how we can empower them in their parenting role.
Click here to listen to the show.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
How do I attract the highest soul for the family? What a wonderful question!!!
(1) The very first step is intend to attract the highest soul for your family.
(2) Become as clear as you can about what you mean by ‘attracting the highest soul for your family’ because that statement will probably mean different things to different people.
Sometimes it can be useful to acknowledge first what you don’t want as this brings you clarity about what you do want.
So for example, if you don’t want tension, arguments etc. Then you know that you do want harmony, peace and fun.
Many of us are operating from the belief that ’pain is necessary for growth’ or that ‘you can’t have it all’.
However, we can create it the way we want it. And we can grow into more and more joy without experiencing the contrasts provided by extreme conditions of pain and suffering.
So be clear about what you would love for your baby, for yourself, for your family (focusing in particular on the feelings).
(3) Involve the rest of the family if that feels good.
You can all join in together asking for the perfect baby who will thrive with you and with whom you will all thrive. You could draw a picture of the family with the new baby and everybody feeling really good, loved, cared for and happy.
(4) Know that it is alright to ask for what you really desire. You are a conscious creator and are here to experience the life that you love.
(5) Trust that it is already given.
So when you conceive and your baby comes along just know that this soul is the perfect one for your family.
When we adopt that perspective we can easily see the opportunity for growth in everything that unfolds in your baby’s life.
This last tip also helps you stay grounded in your sacred feminine power because you realise that every situation regardless of how it appears, is calling forth in you your infinite wisdom, commpassion and power to turn challenge into gold.
In joy,
Deirdre Morris
