Many of the questions I receive around challenges in fertility include within them a reason why this woman might be having difficulty.

For example, women comment on alcohol consumption, arguments with partners, abortion, previous miscarriage etc.

But what many of them are sharing is a sense that perhaps they don’t really, fully deserve to be the mother of a healthy, happy baby. 

What was your initial reaction when you read the title of this post?

 On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate yourself?

1=I am not really good enough to be a mother

10=I am SO good enough to be a mother

What are the images that came up for you when you read this. Where does your mind bring you….to the positive or to the negative?

If you are planning to become pregnant or have experienced challenges in your fertility, it can be useful to see whether your natural response is one of self-criticism or kindness to yourself.

If, somewhere, you are not quite sure if you are good enough to be a mother, your subconscious mind will find evidence of that belief.

Is that what you want? Is it time to release beliefs that take away from the wonder of who you are?

How could you begin that now… and take another step toward success in your fertility, joy in pregnancy and fulfillment in mothering your lovely, healthy baby?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

You can rate yourself on  a scale of 1-10:

 1 = I dont think I am a good mom

10= I am an awesome mom

 So where on the scale are you? What was the first number that comes into your head? What are the images that flashed upon the screen of your mind?

Does your programme (your belief system) bring to your attention first your wonderful qualities …. the evidence of how great you are as a parent?

Or does it zoom into your ‘weaknesses’ or places around which you feel vulnerable?

When you read the heading of the post, what was your gut reaction?

Your perception of yourself as a mother and will most certainly have an impact on your relationship with your baby, your confidence in your breastfeeding and your parenting experience.

Poor self worth in your mothering has a knock-on effect too on your relationship.

If you don’t believe you are a good enough mom, your subconscious mind will find you proof of just that.

Is that what you really want? Might it me time to change some of those beliefs?

Where would you like to begin?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

There might have been a different energy around the love-making process…a sense of something magical.

Or you may just have a deep knowing that conception is taking place now.

I have also experienced an ‘aha moment’ ….the next morning….like a switch telling me I was pregnant. I heard this as the moment the sperm fertilised the egg.

When you look in the mirror you might perceive a difference….a glow in your being.

Without a doubt though, you body will be telling you what is going on in your fertility. When you have a good relationship with your body, you can hear this loud and clear.

You can learn how to tune into your body wisdom. This is an important part of my coaching programmes…helping you to hear clearly the sublte communications from your inner coach.

What are you noticing now?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

It is my intention to support women in inspired fertility, pregnancy, birth and beyond.

It is also my intention to serve women who have experienced miscarriage.

These groups have very different needs and it does not feel congruent to be posting blogs that may be relevant only to some of my readers.

It has felt as if I was pointing in two directions simultaneously.

As a result, over the coming weeks I will be setting up a very special blog that nourishes and supports women who have had miscarriage.

Miscarriage warrants this special attention and I want to honour that.

And so, magicalbeginningsforbaby.com will now focus entirely on magical beginnings for baby….like the name says…bringing you to where you want to be in fertility, pregnancy, birth and early parenting.

Some readers may be interested in more than one blog and are welcome to be part of both communities. But that choice will be yours.

I look forward to serving more deeply is a result. If you have any questions,  suggestions or comments, please let me know.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

This question is relevant to fertility, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, parenting and beyond. 

We have been trained to accept the majority view point and ‘how things are done’. And systems have played an important role in the development of our society.

But our nature is to evolve, to make things better and larger systems generally lag behind considerably…

Often mothers and inspired professionals are caught up in an archaic model that has forgotten that we are deeply wise and that healing, fertility, pregnancy and birth are guided from within.

It has forgotten the power of love, connection, softness, allowing, patience, optimism and vision. 

As an inspired practitioner or patient in an out-dated system, it is useful to remember that your value has nothing to do with how others perceive or treat you. That is intrinsic.

It is also useful to remember that you are precious, worthy of the very best and are a conscious creator in the story of your life.

Now picture what you would love. Let your mind wander. Create a collage. Get into the feelings. And keep your focus on this.

And watch …as the system, your role in it, or workplace change before your very eyes… or you begin to attract people and experiences within the system that nourish and honour you to the core of your being. 

‘The moment that you choose consciousness rather that the tired-out, collective idea about how you ought to live….this is a transformative moment.’ (Clarissa Pinkola Estes).

Be gentle on yourself. Have fun. And dare to dream. 

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

This week’s blogtalk radio show explored spring cleaning from a nutritional perspective as well as a psychological and spiritual viewpoint.

 http://www.Blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalon/2008/03/04/The-Breastfeeding-Salon

Feel free to call to join us on these shows from the breastfeeding salon for any woman who wants to be empowered in motherhood.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

A recent study by Wansink et al (2007, Obesity 15:2920-2924) looked at why the French are thin even though they eat pastas, breads, wine etc.

They hypothesised that people who use internal cues (feeling full) rather than external cues (empty plate) would weigh less.

They compared a group of Parisians and a group of Chicagoans and confirmed that those with normal weight were more likely to listen to internal cues (feeling full).

They also observed that that the French were more likely to listen to internal cues.

If we translate these finding into the area of inspired fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding etc., it confirms what many women have already discovered.

By listening to your own wisdom (internal cues) rather than the ’shoulds’ or ‘have to’ of society (external cues), you make decisions that are best for you.

Your answers to success in pregnancy and birth…to experience the relationship you really desire and be the mother you really want to be…are within you.

Naturally, we need support, advice and expertise from time to time. But your wisdom within will guide you to the information, course or coaches that will help you to thrive. 

Perhaps you are out of practice and haven’t been hearing your guidance. It is there none the less.

How can you deliberately listen to the guidance of your amazing body today… and begin to relax into success in pregnancy, fertility, breastfeeding and more?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

What can I do not to miscarry after 5 weeks? Thank you for this question and for joining us here in a space that really honours you, your fertility and your motherhood.

I experienced miscarriage because there was a part of me that was not quite ready yet. Intellectually I was. Physically too, so I thought.

But many of my patterns and habits did not reflect how I truly wanted to be in the world.

My core ached for something more. In my case, one of the issues that miscarriage made crystal clear for me was my need to create sacred space for my new family, to honour my needs and allow myself and others to meet them.

Up to then, the programme I was running was that I was responsible for others…that my needs were not important.

But that is incompatible with universal laws, with the kind of home life I yearned to create for our baby and the kind of mother I really wanted to be.

Something had to give.

Perhaps this resonates with you somewhere.

You might find it useful to allow yourself to really go within and ask what is the learning for you in your experience of miscarriage.

Is there something that needs to change in your life to experience success in your fertility and enjoy a full-term pregnancy and a safe, gentle birth?

Do you need to say ‘no’ to certain things or people and ‘yes’ to love, ease and happiness so that success in pregnancy becomes the next natural step for you?

What can you do now to begin your journey into inspired fertility?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

The question ‘How can I cure my infertility’ came in again recently.

I will respond in several posts put for today I want to focus on the actual question itself.

As I have mentioned before, the quality of the answers you receive depends on the quality of the questions you pose (John D.Martini) and indeed they shape your life.

So this question about curing infertility is good. Within it lies a sense of hope. There is an assumption that your infertility can be cured. And that is pointing you in the right direction… facing fertility.

However, the word infertility can feel very heavy, like a life sentence of sorts. So while you are pointing toward fertility, you are left feeling somewhat weak.

I suggest a rewording… ‘How can I enhance my fertility and experience success in pregnancy and birth?’

This questions assumes fertility (even if it is limited in some way) and brings you into the outcome your really want..which is pregnancy, birth and a baby.

It is much easier to enhance something healthy that already exists than fix something that is ‘broken’.

So choose questions that empower you and assume fertility and your natural capacity to experience success in pregnancy, birth, parenting and beyond.

 In joy,

 Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Happy March!

Apologies for not posting this week.

I was on vacation in dial up country and also had difficulty accessing my account. So I wrote as if I was posting daily and will publish them over the next few days. 

On last week’s blogtalk radio show we discussed, among other issues, how everyone seems to have an opinion about how you should mother your new baby…and how important it is to create special space to listen to your own wisdom, get to know your baby and develop between you a system that works for you.

http://www.Blogtalkradio.com/TheBreastfeedingSalon/2008/02/26/The-Breastfeeding

This is worth listening to even if you are not considering breastfeeding or are not at that stage yet.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com