On my walk this morning, I was greeted by a German Shepherd careering downhill towards me.

A quick glance noted soft eyes and a wagging tail. This beautiful beast changed direction and followed me back uphill.

I surmised that she was lost and took it upon myself to see if I could locate an owner.

After an hour of delightful meanderings along roads and byroads, I came to the conclusion that it was time for me to return home. I just hoped that we would meet somebody who knew my canine companion.

Soon after, a woman stopped in a car to inform me that ‘Pupi ’has a reputation for following strangers and is used to finding her own way home.

There are two lessons in this story:

(1) Often we assume others need our help and they absolutely do not!

(2) If we insist on taking responsibility, be sure to enjoy the scenery. In this way, when we discover that we are surplus to requirements we can still feel good about the journey.

When experiencing challenges in fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and relationship it can be very useful to ask: ‘What do I feel so responsible for?’, ‘Am I really responsible for this?’ and ’Can I let it go?’.

You can redirect this energy into creating time and space for you… and setting yourself up for success in fertility, pregnancy, relationship, birth and breastfeeding.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Many couples wonder why they haven’t become pregnant even though they have been ‘trying’ for some time.

That word ‘trying’ is worth exploring. When you ’try’ something, there is the possibility that it will not work out.

‘Trying’ also suggests work. It is full of effort and maybe even difficult.

Even the statement ‘I will really try’ conveys the idea that this is not easy but I will do my best to fit it in or achieve it.

Rather than a natural evolution, it seems as if you are going out of your way so that it can take place.

And when you are in this frame of mind (which often happens when couples have been ‘trying’ for a while or in the early stages of breastfeeding), the pressure increases, anxiety moves up a notch and the fear that you may not succeed escalates.

It can be useful then to let go of the word ‘trying’ and replace it with ‘allowing’.

In allowing, there is space for fun, excitement, relaxation and even magic. This is the kind of energy that will attract to you what you want.

When you were learning to walk. You didn’t ‘try’. You delighted in the process of movement. You allowed yourself to explore, develop your muscles and practice taking baby steps.

Even when you fell you were getting closer to your goal. There was absolutely no sense of failure.

How does ‘trying’ make you feel? How might that effect your relationship?

How can you liberate yourself from ‘trying’ and open up to more fun, pleasure and delight in your fertility, pregnancy, breastfeeding and life?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com

Pregnancy, fertility and pleasure are intimately connected. They are very good friends. Or at least they should be.

I know I have posted on this before. But pleasure warrants attention.

Nature demonstrated this clearly by gifting us an organ designed for pleasure alone. This magical creation, your clitoris, was strategically placed in your reproductive system.

How much more obvious could it be? Not only is pleasure core to being a woman, it is an essential part of your fertility, pregnancy and mothering story.

How have you been blocking pleasure? What can you do today to welcome more pleasure into your experience of pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding and relationship?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Deirdre@magicalbeginningsforbaby.com