The omission of miscarriage from our family and community rituals reflect a male experience of life and, more specifically, a religious or spiritual understanding of life and death limited to the male perspective. Men don’t have miscarriages and don’t have first hand experience of a tiny life living and dying inside. And that is ok.

What Miscarriage BringsMiscarriage is a very powerful process for women and can be the catalyst for hugely positive change if we let it. Apart altogether from the physical and emotional pain of losing somebody you love dearly, miscarriage matters.Like a rite of passage, miscarriage can catapult a women into a new level of empowerment. Why? Read the rest of this entry »

In spite of the fact that each of us comes from a very long line of successful pregnancies, many couples today are finding it difficult to conceive or enjoy a pregnancy until the safe birth or their baby.Indeed, according to Hart (2003) in the British Medical Journal, up to 25% of patients who present for investigation in a reproductive medicine clinic are diagnosed with unexplained fertility. He explains that unexplained infertility is a diagnosis of exclusion. When no other reason for not being able to become pregnant or stay pregnant can be found, unexplained infertility is the diagnosis one receives.Webster’s dictionary defines ‘Unexplained’ as (1) not explained or (2) having the reason or cause not made clear. So a diagnosis of unexplained infertility just means Read the rest of this entry »

Many of you will remember that I interviewed Debra Pascali Bonaro, producer of the wonderful documentary ‘Orgasmic Birth’ before the birth of my own girls (who are almost 6 months old!).

I am delighted to report that this interview is now available on Debra’s website and can be downloaded for free from there.

The interview is about 45 minutes long and covers the following topics:

0:00 About Debra
3:30 Passion for birth
8:00 Why birth is in crisis
10:15 Implications of fear during birth
13:30 What is possible?
19:40 The power of the mind-body connection
20:50 Is a positive birth experience available to all?
24:45 Know your choices and be mindful of them
25:35 Qualities and attitudes of women who have “orgasmic” births
28:30 Becoming more comfortable with experiencing pleasure
30:00 How to prepare
33:45 Don’t just “get thru it!”
36:00 Helping our children prepare
38:55 Becoming comfortable with sexuality and sensuality
39:45 Vision for the world

If you want to begin to align yourself with a beautiful birth experience this interview is well worth a listen.

Click here to access it and feel free to leave comments.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

It was on one of our Breastfeeding Blogtalk radio show that I first heard of the ‘Diaper Free Baby’.

And I noticed some resistance bubbling up at the idea of using a potty with tiny babies. What came to mind first was the image of over enthusiastic parents putting pressure on children to preform before they are ready.

Thankfully, I have come to realise now that embracing my resistance always opens doors into new delights. So I ordered the book ‘The Diaper Free Baby’ and during the pregnancy got stuck in.

 I liked the ideas behind Elimination Communication. The intention is not to toilet train your baby. Rather is it about tuning into your baby’s communication and responding to that. I loved the gentleness of it and we both felt excited about trying this approach with the girls. However, following the cesarean, I didn’t have the energy for anything ‘extra’. Apart from the physical recovery I had to learn the very basics about being a mum to my lovely girls. From day one though the girls peed when we were changing nappies so we made the ‘pssshh’ sound bringing their attention to what was happening.

A few weeks ago I decided to order the potties. And on St. Valentine’s day we presented them for the first time.When they woke up (which invariably happens at the same time for both), we placed them on the potties. Most of us relieve ourselves soon after waking up. Babies are the same. Within a couple of minutes we could hear them urinating. I was in shock. I never thought it could be that easy.

 At the moment we usually present the potty first thing in the morning and at nappy changes. We use the American Sign Language signf or potty when we do so. We also give them an opportunity to use the potty when we see them pushing. Indeed most poos now take place in the potty. Such dignitiy for these tiny bums. They love it too. If they indicate that they want to get off we oblidge immediately.It doesn’t matter to me when they are toilet trained. I just love the idea of helping my girls tune into their bodily functions and to feel comfortable letting go of what they don’t need with ease and freedom. These are messages that I really want them to have in their cells.  

This experience has made me reflect on our expectations and I began to wonder are there other ways in which I have underestimated my girls and babies in general.

My intention now is to make decisions that honour their wisdom, intelligence, unique rhythm, path and love of discovering this world.

Click here for more information on Elimination Communication.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

From my personal experience of three miscarriages along with my coaching work, it is clear that many women and men who are having difficulty conceiving a baby or completing a healthy pregnancy have what I refer to as ’Vibrational Infertility’.

‘Vibrational Infertility’ is a term I have coined to illustrate what is really happening when you are having difficulties getting pregnant and/or staying pregnant.

We know that everything in the universe is a vibration of energy and information. Our thoughts and feelings make up our own personal vibration and we attract only what is a match to our dominant thoughts and feelings.  Vibrational Infertility explains that there is a difference between the vibration you are emitting and the vibration you want to attract (success in fertility). It happens when you are not (yet) a match for success in pregnancy.This is great news for anybody trying to conceive (and particularly those with a diagnosis of Unexplained Infertility)  because your vibration is not static.

Your body is truly amazing.

But many of us have been brought up without the habit of tuning in and connecting to the processes and rhythms of our physical forms. Often it is only when we are experiencing challenges in fertility or in health that we begin to give our bodies the attention they deserve.

Understanding more about how a healthy woman’s body works supports us in enhancing fertility as whatever you put our attention on grows. So when you are observing at a healthy functioning body…you are attracting that too.

By focusing in on healthy fertility processes you are being even clearer with the universe. It hears as a request whatever you are putting your attention on and brings more of the same

Below is a link to photos of the cervix and how it changes over one menstrual cycle.

Before you view the images and read the content be aware of how you feel as you do so. What does it bring up for you?

This will give you some insight into your vibration and what the universe is hearing from you. Many of us actually feel uncomfortable or queasy with this kind of material.

How do you think your cervix (or her family which in this case is your reproductive system) would feel about that?

How do you perform when in the presence of people who are not comfortable in your company or with the job you have to do? Is there some energy you need to detangle so that the law of attraction can work in your favour to bring you a baby?

Click here  and feel free to share your reaction and insights here.

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Most pregnant parents hope for a healthy child.

 ’Healthy’ in this instance implies not only vitality but also freedom from disability (or difference) of any kind.

This fear is very real for many of us and often rears its head when we are due a scan, amniocentesis or tuning into baby’s developmental milestones.

But maybe we don’t need to fear.

Watch this thought-provoking video. Do you see flaws in nature or evidence of the beauty and wisdom of creation  revealed in a unique and perfect way?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris 

I ended up having a cesarean section.  

So what about the law of attraction? How, with my all my preparation, did I manage to create cesarean instead of an orgasmic (or even ordinary …as if that is possible), natural birth experience?

I have had lots of time to reflect on this and the answer lies in the question.

I SO did not want a cesarean section.

I mean, I REALLY, REALLY, REALLY did not want cesarean section.

And with the benefit of hindsight, I can see now that I was far more focused on ‘NOT HAVING CESAREAN’ than on having a natural, vaginal birth.

For example, I was so thrilled to have a doc who did not assume that a cesarean was needed even though I was having twins one of whom (at the time) was in breech.

I wrote a post on ‘the myth that breech babies required cesarean’.

I used many healing techniques to avoid cesarean.

And I so DID NOT WANT CESAREAN. I resisted it at every level of my being. I hated the idea.

And that is why I attracted it. Because I was far more passionate about not having cesarean than I was about having a natural birth.

Instead of investing my energy into having a natural birth, I was fighting the possibility of cesarean.

 And each time I said NO to CESAREAN the universe just heard ‘CESEAREAN’….(it doesn’t hear NO..it just brings us what we focus on whether or not we want it).

And with the precision of this amazing universal law, it delivered exactly what I had given most of my attention to and my beautiful girls made their safe, gentle entry into this beautiful world through a very discrete incision in my pubis.

Are you fighting against or flowing towards what you really want in your fertility and birth experience?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris

Our girleens (little girls) have actually been here over a month during which blogging did not get a look in on the to do list.

 And their magical beginning took the form of a cesarean section (more of that in later posts and how I attracted this experience). Both babies choose a breech position.

Our first gift to them was an Irish name….Eadaoin (pronounced Aydeen) which means ‘goddess of beauty’ and Caoimhe (pronounced Queeva) which means gentle, graceful and beautiful. 

And they are all of that!

Wow. How lucky are we to have these two delights in our lives? How much I have learned (and unlearned) since their birth! What a privilege it is to be a mother.

Above is a photo of their first bath!

In great joy,

Deirdre Morris

I am 34 weeks pregnant with our twins and have been sleeping a lot lately!  Hence, I haven’t posted for a while. However, lots has been happening.

We are coming into a new phase in the preparation for birth. My wonderful doctor (general practitioner) also happens to be an Acupuncturist and Homeopath. 

How lucky am I? This is proof of the Law of Attraction in my life for sure.

Last week we had a session during which she showed myself and my partner different acupressure points to facilitate the birth process…to reduce back and abdominal pain and to support delivery of the placenta.

This means that my partner can play an active part in helping his babies be born…..and this in turn will support me. How empowering is that?

I also love the idea of being able to tap into this ancient healing technique during the birth of our twins.

There is so much assistance available to us when we ask for it!

What are you asking for? Perhaps you already have resources (like your partner) that could be utilised in an even more powerful way during birth.  What steps can you take now to allow that to happen for you?

In joy,

Deirdre Morris